More Than “Back to School Shopping”: A Month Before School with Our Children: A Pediatric Psychologist’s Guide

Posted: August 4, 2025

Several of my “tween” patients this past week were excited to tell me about clothes shopping for the new school year. Sometimes I get some of my “best” ideas for blog posts from this age group!

Returning to school is an exciting milestone, but it can stir nerves for both children and parents. Starting preparations three to four weeks before the first day gives your child time to adjust physically, emotionally, and academically. This gradual approach reduces stress, fosters confidence, and sets the stage for a positive year ahead.

Establish Healthy Sleep and Morning Routines

A consistent sleep schedule is the foundation for focus and emotional regulation. Begin shifting bedtime and wake‐up times by 10–15 minutes each week until you reach the school‐year goals.

Create a calming bedtime ritual: reading, gentle music, dim lights.
Limit screens at least one hour before sleep to boost melatonin.
Designate a quiet, comfortable sleep environment free of noise and clutter.

Address Separation Anxiety and Emotional Well-Being

Even older children can feel jittery about the transition. Validating their feelings and providing tools helps them cope independently.

Talk through fears and expectations days ahead, using open‐ended questions.
Roleplay drop-off scenarios to build familiarity and confidence.
Teach simple breathing or “grounding” techniques: sniff a scented object, touch textured items, or focus on five things you see.

Boost Academic Confidence and Organizational Skills

Ease back into learning by reviewing key concepts and setting up a straightforward study system.

Spend 10–15 minutes daily reading together or using math facts to start to establish at a set time to prepare for any…yes, I’m saying it… “homework”.
Assemble a “school kit” with notebooks, folders, pencils, and a personalized planner.
Practice a daily homework routine: choose a consistent time and quiet workspace.

Foster Social and Peer Readiness

Friendships and peer interactions shape a positive school experience. Encourage social skills practice in everyday moments...

Arrange low-stress playdates to rebuild social confidence.
Role-play common playground scenarios—taking turns, asking to join games, handling conflicts.
Discuss kindness, empathy, and how to ask for help if problems arise.

Prioritize Health, Safety, and Nutrition

Healthy bodies support healthy minds. Fine-tune your child’s routine to include balanced meals, movement, and hygiene habits.

Plan breakfasts rich in protein and whole grains to sustain energy.
Pack wholesome snacks: fruit slices, yogurt, trail mix.
Review hand-washing steps.
Schedule any overdue immunizations or school‐required physical exams.

Establish Communication with Teachers and School Staff

A proactive partnership with educators ensures everyone is on the same page.

Attend open‐house events or virtual meet-and-greets to introduce yourself and your child.
Ask about classroom routines, behavior expectations, and homework policies.
Select a preferred communication channel: email, app, or planner notes.

Cultivate a Positive Mindset and Resilience

Children mirror parental attitudes. Modeling optimism and problem-solving sets a powerful example.

Highlight past successes—times your child overcame challenges.
Use “yet” language: “You’re not reading that chapter yet, but you will with practice.”
Celebrate small steps each week: waking up easily, finishing a review exercise, making a new friend.

Every family is unique, so customize these suggestions to match your child’s temperament and needs. Starting early allows you to build routines without last-minute pressure.

Involve your child in each step to empower their sense of ownership and excitement. With gradual adjustments, you’ll welcome the first school day with calm confidence and joyful anticipation.

As always, if I can be of assistance, please reach out.

Dr. M